look into his eyes~

1 question..  when was the last time u saw ur grandmother or grandfather?

answer?: perhaps last hari raya? last depavali? or last CNY? so.. for those celebrating CNY, its almost a year we didnt see them right? same goes for me here.. almost 1 year since the last time i saw my grandparents from my father side..

the medical branch which dealing with those labelled with The Golden Age Generation or in simple term, geriatric medicine really open my eyes.. 

Try to look at urself in the mirrow(if u have any..) what did u see? a healthy and active young man or young lady.. at ur early age.. with very nice smile.. full set of teeth.. no wrinkle.. solid and straight posture.. u can turn around to see urself in the mirrow easily.. what a fantastic experience.. just starting to explore life.. trying to mark ur name in the world and clean the path for the uncertain but perhaps a bright future.. we might not think about what we will be in the next 40 years..(i am at my age of 63 that time).. coz its too long way to go and we dont even know whether we still around at that age... but to make thing simple.. look at them.. the old lady.. the old gentlemen.. in the final chapter of their life.. do we have a minute to look into their eyes.. to understand them.. or just simply take their wrinkle and wasted hand..

what can u see in their eyes? cataract? senile arcus? hehe.. its more than that friends... a lots to see but yet.. nothing much to say right? So let look into Mr A eyes.. a 65 years old man..

1. a loneliness... son and daughter growth up.. starting their life.. have their own family.. have their own children.. have their own job.. hav their own house.. he  stay alone.. or if he is lucky.. still has their spouse to accompany him or at least he got a partner to fight about the whether forecast today.. hehe.. or sadly, if he is so unlucky.. his wife die.. he stay alone.. accompanied by a cat or a dog.. watching tv alone.. ride his bicycle to nearest coffee shop to find a friend to have a chat.. and to make the story more tragis.. his best friend also past away.. loneliness.. nobody can really understand him.. maybe his children can afford to hire a maid.. if he lucky...........

2. medical bills... as he growth old.. he will develop the degenerative disease.. the complication of his sedentary lifestyle before.. his benefit of 80 pack years of smoking... his chronic alcoholism.. his diabetes.. his hypertension.. his body no longer flexible.. he can no longer do the shuffle dance he used to enjoy before.. he no longer can kick the ball the he love so much.. luckily astro got macam-macam ada.. at least can watch his favorite team play live twice a week on TV as he no longer able to ride his superbike to Stadium to join the rest to jump and hugging each other when his team win the league..

3. past glorious day.. he might be a manager in the big company with a multi million investment around the world.. now he hardly manage his own daily life... he used to be a top surgeon in the country.. but now.. he maybe the one on the table.. he maybe never lost his battle in the court as a great lawyer... but now he need a lawyer to write his will..  he maybe a gangster with 1000 follower, but now he is alone.. and just thinking about God.. 

4. money problem.. no longer a manager, surgeon or Ah long.. he had limited financial resources.. his pension maybe just a quarter of his monthly income before.. his '0' digit in his bank account start to reduce...  he still need to eat.. pay the bill, buy some new clothes for his friends funeral, or at least need to pay the astro bill... the price of plain water also very expensive nowadays..(40 sen at Nasi Kandar Pulau Pinang opposite to Saberkas a.k.a Ashley).. but, takkan la nak order plain water je.. mesti nak pekena tongkat Ali.. hehe..

5. dont forget his cataract just now.. he can no longer have a look at any sexy girl on his way to the kedai kopi.. haih.. tak syok bah.. need to remove the cataract ASAP!!! hehe..

so in short.. show ur empathy to the old folk.. they have something that u dun have.. experience.. Ingat lima perkara sebelum datang lima perkara.. especially, muda sebelum tua and hidup sebelum mati.. dun neglect ur grandparents or parents.. they need u.. dont send them to the old folk houses.. that place is a hell.. i have been there.. trust me.